FYI | Day 28 – Peace

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“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” ~ Peace Pilgrim Quote

Close your eyes for thirty seconds and think about what ‘internal peace’ means to you. If you can type with your eyes closed, try typing out your own definition. This is what I came up with:

Peace is having a perfect relationship with oneself; self-doubt is replaced with self-confidence. Peace is being empty of harmful emotions such as jealousy, unjustified anger, and contempt. Peace is a lack of struggle within. Peace is smiling because on the inside you are smiling. Peace is being okay with the past, happy for today, and not worrying about tomorrow. Peace is a state of harmony and serenity. Peace is aligning yourself with truth and living it. Peace is a state of consciousness or enlightenment.

What does your description look like?

When we are at peace we are invulnerable to stress and emotional suffering and not affected by the state of the world because our internal state is well guarded.  Being completely at peace is rare to come by, and we tend to hold ourselves back by not living consciously.

I should probably make a disclaimer here that I am in no way claiming to be a peace expert or filled with peace. Makes me angry just thinking about it! 😉  Yet, I strive to identify factors that hold us back and ways to improve. Let’s take a look into a few factors that hold us back from living and developing more peace within: forgiveness, patience, love & confidence, truth, and accountability.

Forgiveness

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Grudges, contempt, hatred and anger are cancers that riddle our insides, affecting our mind AND body.  Forgiveness is the blessing that allows us to release these pains that arise because of your feelings towards another.

When forgiveness is not given (or sincerely felt), negative feelings rise to the surface that allow you to experience them again and again. What madness is this?! Forgiveness can be the hardest thing to do, especially when you feel they don’t deserve it.  Ironically, this is only hurting yourself.

As you can see, forgiveness is not just for the other person.  You know you have forgiven someone when they can pass into and out of your thoughts with no negative emotions being stirred.

Lastly, let’s not forget about forgiving yourself.  Moving on is never more difficult than when you can’t forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself comes easier if you acknowledge what you have learned from your mistake and seek to not repeat it in the future.

Patience

There is nothing like being stuck in rush hour traffic, in a line at the grocery store, or waiting for your doctor’s appointment to test your patience!  Developing patience stomps anger to the ground when someone else’s time feels more important.

Love & Confidence

“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” ~ Peace Pilgrim Quote Find ways to share and give love to someone, and do it with actions, not words alone.  Express gratitude, appreciate them, and/or do so something nice.  Love can freely develop when you are at peace with yourself first. Confidence comes from loving yourself and knowing your true value.  You are valuable, I promise.

Truth

We cannot be at peace when we not only lie to others, but lie to ourselves. It can become a disease that spreads where in the end we can’t distinguish between truth and mistruth.  How many times per day do we (white) lie because we don’t have the courage to face the consequences and/or emotions that arise?

Accountability (aka Blaming)

It’s impossible to grow as a person and feel at peace when we don’t take accountability for our own lives. Blaming others simply allows us to feel better about ourselves and doesn’t help solve the root of the problem. Even little excuses such as: “I was late to work because my alarm didn’t go off”, “I was way too drunk because Mike kept buying me shots!” or “I fell in the toilet because you didn’t put the toilet seat down” don’t benefit us. Blaming will point the finger in the other direction, but it doesn’t benefit the person with the finger. (Check out The Joys of Being the Victim)

Developing Peace

I find myself incredibly unqualified to write this section, but here are some strategies that help me learn and grow:

  • Self-Reflection. Learning why I do what I do. Pinpointing areas for growth and working to improve it.
  • Limit Identifying.  People put so much of themselves into a sports team, their career, their relationships etc.  When you give part of your identity to something outside of your control, you allow yourself to be emotionally swayed by the outcomes from these sources. Don’t trust your identity with something or someone that isn’t safe. Know someone who is angry, mean, and sour all day because their sport’s team loses?
    (You identify with something when you add emotional attachment when you say “I am…”. Ex: I am a die-hard Cubs fan. I am a Firefighter. I am a father, son, and husband…)
  • Stop Dishonesty. Stop lying to myself and others. Ever catch yourself instinctively telling little lies or half-truths?  Catch yourself and tell yourself never again.
  • Patience.  With yourself and others.
  • Nature.  Make time to be outside with nature and the sun. Smell the roses, as they say.
  • Meditation.  Simply take time to be alone with your own thoughts and explore what’s in there ;).

Your Task

Spend some time today and think about whatever is bothering you in this moment.  What are you struggling with that you’d love to be rid of.

Do you need to forgive someone? Are you angry at yourself for something? Feel agitated while waiting for your Big mac? What daily internal battles are you facing, and what needs to be done to be able to let them go?

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